It’s been quite a while since I last blogged and so much has happened. I felt compelled to write about the psycho-spiritual impact of the coronavirus to help process my own fears and emotions, but maybe it can help somebody else as well.
Most people are emotionally absorbent—meaning that the feelings and emotions of those around us can impact and influence our own personal feelings and emotions. Our world is significantly affected by COVID-19 and there is a collective fear in the air that many of us are feeling on a personal level. Of course, it doesn’t help calm our nerves when...more
For the longest time, I’ve felt inclined to write because of this notion that I just KNOW. I’ve learned a lot of hard lessons over the past decade. Throughout my life experiences, I’ve suffered, I’ve thrived, I’ve grown—as we all do. But, simply having self-awareness doesn’t equate to knowing everything or even knowing what is for the best. I was so sure that I needed to write a book because it seemed like the logical way to monetize my passion. They always say, do what you love for a career and you’ll never hate your job. Yet, I was so fixated on the end result, “write a book to make...more
“Allow failure to lead you to your revival.”
I don’t know how everyone else is feeling, but this month has been wild for me. I started out 2020 feeling insanely optimistic and hopeful. Then, reality sunk in and I fell into a familiar rabbit hole, the one where everything is bleak and depressing. I had to focus all of my energy on picking myself up and climbing out of the hole. Now that I’m out, I’m basically scratching my head and asking myself, what’s next?
Historically, I have had a difficult time conforming to society’s ideological way of life. In...more
It's been awhile. I took a break from blogging, social media, and even working because I had my sights fixated on a specific goal: I wanted to write a book. I wanted to churn out a published book in three months because I was gifted a book that said that it was possible. However, on some level I was aware that it would be a difficult task, so I put myself in a bubble. I deactivated my Facebook and Instagram pages, I took a break from my blog, and I shifted my focus onto my book.
Some people knew that this was what I was doing, most didn’t. I wanted to protect myself in this bubble...more
"Sometimes people don't want to hear the truth because they don't want their illusions destroyed." —Friedrich Nietzsche
Apologizing is one of the most humbling gestures for a human being. When we tell someone that we’re sorry, we are admitting fault, regretting an action or comment made, and acknowledging their feelings all at the same time. But, as I’m sure you have noticed, there are some people out there that either have a hard time apologizing, or even a complete inability to apologize. And, this really got me thinking about how we should handle those...more
"The wound is the place where the light enters you." — Rumi
These last few weeks have been incredibly challenging for me. My mental balance has been compromised and I’ve been feeling emotionally overwhelmed. In my recent blogs, I’ve talked about how my depression and anxiety stems from my insecurities and feeling like I’m not good enough. Today, during my meditation I started to feel those same feelings seep into my awareness. And, during my meditation I realized that my self-deprecating thoughts and feelings are draining me. They're holding me back from...more
"Be grateful for triggers; they point where you are not free."— Unknown
Something that I’ve talked a bit about in my blogs are my insecurities and feeling like I’m not good enough. Feeling not good enough is the root of a lot of my mental health struggles. But, I’m not drowning in them like I used to. I lose my way, I lose my footing and fall back. But, I’ve also grown a lot in the past few years and have gotten to a place where I can now recognize when I’m slipping and can address the issue in real time.
What I’m learning now more than ever is that...more
These last couple of weeks I haven’t posted to my blog because I was going through a hard time emotionally. And then, I was afraid to share about it because I worried about how people were going to perceive me or if they would judge me. The topic that has always been the closest to my heart and the most important reason why I want to write a book to help people is mental health. Maintaining a mental and emotional balance is something that I have struggled with on and off throughout my life. I know some people are hit with it even harder. But, I think each and every one of us has...more
"Your entire life only happens in this moment. The present moment is life itself. Yet, people live as if the opposite were true and treat the present moment as a stepping stone to the next moment— a means to an end." — Eckhart Tolle
The little moments, the small details are such an integral part of our lives, yet they’re so often overlooked and ignored. What do I mean by little moments? I mean the little moment of walking your dog in the morning and you notice that the weather isn’t painstakingly hot for...more
"Imperfection is a form of freedom." — Anh Ngo
My name is Saba Ghaffari and I am a recovering perfectionist. The dictionary defines a perfectionist as being someone who refuses to accept any standard short of perfection. Living your life in this way is not enhancing, it’s actually suffocating. People that strive for perfection doubt their decisions, overthink unnecessary details, and are extremely critical and judgmental of themselves. Life in itself is inherently flawed, so living your life without any room for error is a surefire way to suck a lot of joy...more
“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.” – Helen Keller
Recently, I’ve become acutely aware of the fact that we all have walls which we put in place, often subconsciously, in an effort to protect ourselves. While it feels like these walls keep us safe from harm, in reality they are actually blocks standing in our way of receiving and attaining what we truly want. I used a personal example of one of my blocks in my...more
“I trust that everything happens for a reason, even if we are not wise enough to see it.” – Oprah Winfrey
Something that I realize more and more as I get older is that everything has a purpose and everything happens for a reason. Too many times I have caught myself in a storm of resentment, barricading myself with resistance to a situation, complaining about it, and desperately praying for a “better” scenario. It’s always in the aftermath, after the event has passed or run its course, that I realize there was merit in the circumstance and what a shame that I...more
The past few days I’ve had the hardest time trying to write. People call this phenomenon “writer’s block”. Wikipedia even describes it as a condition that “ranges from difficulty with coming up with original ideas to being unable to produce work for years.” I know what you’re probably thinking: “You have writer’s block the first month into your new writing venture?” Yes, yes I do. Thankfully, my situation isn’t that dire, as it’s only been a couple of weeks since I’ve written. But, the ominous fear surrounding the “block” feels all the same to me.
Why has it been so difficult for me...more
“'Cause sometimes you just feel tired, you feel weak. And when you feel weak, you feel like you want to just give up. But you gotta search within you, you gotta find that inner strength. And just pull that shit out of you and get that motivation to not give up, and not be a quitter, no matter how bad you want to just fall flat on your face and collapse” –Eminem (excerpted from his song ‘Till I Collapse’)
As some of you already know, I love to write. In fact, I felt so strongly that writing was my calling, my purpose in life, that I left my...more
"The 'pain-body' wants to survive, just like every other entity in existence, and it can only survive if it gets you to unconsciously identify with it." —Eckhart Tolle
I haven’t written anything in what feels like an eternity. But, I promised myself that this blog would exist as something for ME, not for anyone else; so, I’ll try my best to not pass judgment on it. Like many people, I’ve noticed that I can be my biggest critic. Which is a shame, because we don’t need to do anything but love ourselves.
A lot of changes and things have been happening in...more
"Acceptance means: For now, this is what this situation, this moment, requires me to do, and so I do it willingly." -Eckhart Tolle
One of the things that is so incredibly important to me, now more than ever, is authenticity. Existing in this digital world that we live in, it’s becoming even more challenging to maintain a sense of authenticity. Social media is a huge reason for this. We’re constantly refreshing these apps that make us keep our focus on everyone else, but ourselves. “This” is what my body should look like, “that” is what I need to buy, “this”...more
Hello, hello everybody! Welcome to my new website SABA. Being that this is the very first blog, I thought that it would be appropriate to give a background on myself and my vision for this website.
Once upon a time, I was 23 years old and feeling very stuck in my life. I felt extremely unfulfilled at my job, overwhelmed by a huge sense of existential anxiety. A huge part of that was that I felt like I wasn’t doing anything to help make a difference in the world. The other contributing factor was that I wasn’t able to tap into my creativity. Hence, I was feeling a lot of angst and...more